Acknowledge the setback, continue moving forward

This is the last week of the month of January, commonly known for being the ‘resolution month.’ As this last full week of resolution month is coming to a close, I found this quote fitting to write an article around:

“Giving up on your goal because of one setback, is like slashing your other three tires because you have a flat.”~Bernajoy Vaal

Often times we enter anything with an all or nothing approach whether we like to acknowledge it or not. We eat a cookie, and now our will power and self control is over, so we must continue on and eat more cookies, followed by additional treats that are generally considered off limits. This continues on to no longer hitting the gym due to the cookie fiasco, and self hatred and failure seems to hit a high note as we sit at home knowing that we didn’t hit any of our targeted goals that day. Sitting in front of the TV, a commercial for ice cream comes on, and all of a sudden you must have it. You give in simply because your day has already been ruined, right?

This is how many of us think. We carry that all or nothing approach to our food, our gym time, our relationships, and even our work. If one thing at work goes wrong, well we might as well stop in fear of ruining something else. If one relationship goes sour, we often shut ourselves off from everyone, or go into the polar opposite and want to have as many relationships as possible.

What it boils down to, is we often lack balance. We often set ourselves up to fail, rather than plan to succeed.

Using the initial quote as an example, if you have a flat tire, ideally you change the flat and replace it with your spare until it can be fixed permanently. You wouldn’t slash all the other tires and throw in the towel. Now you would have three other tires in need of repair rather than simply the one from the beginning.

Use this as an example the next time a setback occurs or you take a different route on your path to your goal. Don’t make the setback ten times worse, but acknowledge it and continue moving forwards toward your goal as opposed to being your own obstacle and taking ten steps backwards.

Have the best FUEL-filled day ever!

Megan Church
CEO of MangoFuel LLC